Dealing With Ugly Sides of aRelationshipDealing With Ugly Sides of aRelationship

Most times, relationships are based on trust. This
trust is often one-sided. Friendship cannot last if it
is not mutual. Sometimes the measure given is not
the measure received. The giver mostly may not
understand how the tide is until it's his/her turn to
receive; that is when
the bubble bursts. Experience
they say is the best teacher but here it's better
taken as the best lesson. If you want to know how
bad a follower is give him/her leadership, and you
will see the beast in them. It is unwise to depend
on your good deeds towards others, because
reciprocation will mostly be in doubt when the need
arises. It wise to show a friend a way but do not
disclose the bumps and T-junctions therein so that
your obstruction will be difficult to achieve without
your knowledge. In a relationship one has to be
expecting the worst. This is because of the
unpredictability of human nature. Many people will
not agree with me especially motivation speakers
or positive thinkers who always preach positivity
and optimism.
The bottom line is that depression as a result of
heart-break is caused by over-trust. Trust is good
in any relationship but it is good to have some
elements of doubt at the back of one's mind, so
that when the unexpected happens, then one can
be able to use rationalization to subdue the
depressive pressures. Most of the people who
suffer heart-breaks always find it difficult to
believe what their darling partner just did to them,
and the condition becomes more frustrating and
infuriating when they remember that it was the
people they gave their hearts in trust and love that
betrayed them. Vigilance is the best antidote to
heart-break.
It is good to know from the onset that as long as
you are dealing with a human being he/she may
disappoint.
Before you disclose any information, hold on one or
two clauses to yourself so that your consultation
will definitely be sought even when you have been
double-crossed, then you will understand how you
were overthrown. Humans are very unpredictable,
so it is good to have various assumptions or
hypotheses concerning your relationship and
confirm or reject them as they turn out to become.
Try not to be depressed when the worst happens,
but always go for alternatives. Nature abhors
vacuum and the earlier you fill the space the better
for you to cope with the loss.
When people understand the nature and
imperfection of man then they will stop expecting
others to be exhibiting supernatural qualities.